How To Support Teens Through A Challenging Phase In Their Lives

A question I often ask my teenage children is “What makes you feel most alive?” I know many young people today have lost connection with the essence of what it means to be fully alive, and this breaks my heart.

Understanding the Challenges

Having witnessed climate and financial crises, political extremism, mass shootings, pandemic shutdowns, and the toxic and devastating impact of social media, among other life-changing issues, it is no surprise that many members of Gen Z (young people born between 1997 and 2012) face unprecedented levels of anxiety, depression, addiction, and suicidality – diseases of despair, as they have been called. Loneliness is a significant factor contributing to these challenges. As social psychologist Sherry Turkle, PhD, author of Alone Together, explains: “Young people are more connected than ever, yet they are alone together.” This paradox highlights the disconnection many teens feel even while engaging online.

The Importance of Emotional Support

Young people often aren't taught how to deal with their fluctuating emotions until the consequences become extreme. Our collective emphasis on nurturing positive mental health has led many to believe that feeling down is grounds for serious concern. As adults, we know that life isn’t perfect, and that pain and suffering are inevitable; upset and disappointment are part of the growing process.

Ways to Provide Support

We want to help our children navigate this challenging phase of their lives. Here are several effective strategies:

Open Communication

Engage your teens in conversations about their feelings and experiences. Ask open-ended questions that encourage discussion, and make sure they know it’s safe to express their emotions without judgment.

Educate About Mental Health

Provide information about mental health. Normalize feelings of anxiety and depression, and educate teens on how to recognize these emotions in themselves and others.

Foster Connections

Encourage healthy relationships with peers and family. Arrange family activities that promote connection, and encourage friendships that are based on mutual respect and understanding.

Encourage Professional Help

Do not hesitate to suggest professional support if a teen's struggles are overwhelming. Therapy and counseling can provide them with coping strategies and a safe space to share their thoughts.

Model Resilience

Show your teens how you cope with challenges and setbacks. Share your own experiences and the strategies you've employed to navigate tough times. Modeling resilience can inspire them to develop their coping mechanisms.

Conclusion

Research and real-life experience show time and again that given the right ongoing support, recovery from these diseases of despair that plague our youth is possible and indeed likely. As a mother of three adolescent and young adult children and a recent widow after losing my husband, I've witnessed firsthand how past years have impacted my family’s well-being. While I felt quite helpless initially, I understand now that with tailored support and open conversations, we can help our teens feel more connected and supported during these trying times. Let us all commit to being there for our youth, to guide them through the storms of their adolescence, ensuring they know they’re not alone.